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My dad owned a lucrative men’s clothing company and my mom worked with him after I turned 11.
They were the Nice Jewish Parents par excellence: loving, warm and giving.
Wish I would have read this years ago…again, it probably would have fallen on just as deaf of ears as my Exs were when I was trying to tell him he drank too much, and how it was killing me. Recovering alcoholics – this article doesn't apply to you.
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The reason this advice hurt so much at the time was that it would have forced me to see my part in things. At my office, I began to put together a black and white list of the things in our relationship that I could not accept.Before I left my husband, a dear friend from school sent me a quote from Maya Angelou.It said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them—the first time!In my case, there were months of lying about his sobriety when I just wasn’t sure whether he was drinking or not.Had I begun the list sooner, instead of listening to the words I so wanted to believe, I would have saved myself at least a year of heartbreak.
There will always be another excuse, another mistake, another relapse, another addiction or anger about a parent’s addiction that they need their lifetime and yours to get over. When my husband first relapsed after his mother died, my well-meaning Christian father told me to “just love him.” But that’s the problem with the addict; the more you love, the more they take of you and everything else, until there’s nothing left to give. While most other people tried to be polite, or pray for me, their comments seemed to gently gloss over what was actually happening. I can do better.” Instead, I stayed, w—a—y too long. Both the addict and the co-dependent will do anything to hide their sense of inadequacy.